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Readers Respond: How Trying to Get Pregnant Has Changed Your Sex Life

Responses: 5


Updated June 15, 2014

Trying to get pregnant can have a positive impact on your sex life in the beginning, but if you struggle with trying to conceive, things can turn ugly. Infertility has been shown in research to increase the chance of sexual dysfunction in men and women, and many couples trying to conceive say sex feels more like a chore.

How has trying to get pregnant changed your sex life? What’s changed for the better? What’s changed for the worse?

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Can't Disagree

My wife and I tried for about one year before getting fertility help. We were shown charts of her fertility dropping, my sperm count being low etc. and how IVF was the way to go. Then we tried a natural IUI and got pregnant right away. Ashley, Anna, I would recommend you guys to try a natural IUI. It's around US $500 but well worth it. And take both my wife and my word for it, once you do conceive, all these negative thoughts will be a distant memory. Don't give up, if one thing/procedure doesn't work, try another... and another. If it can happen for us, it can happen for you. All our love and prayers.
—Guest JustAnotherGuy


Infertility first wrecked our sexual relations and is now eying our marriage. My wife is so obsessed and depressed after two years of treatments, I do not think we will survive much longer. I am doing my best to be supportive, but the hormones, emotions and lack of "life" in this relationship have left me wondering about our future. I can do nothing right, I am a human punching bag. Her own friends and family have turned away from her wrath, and they are telling me it is time to do the same. Therapy/counseling is not helping at all and our lives have spiraled out of control. I do not wish this on anyone. Prior to discovering our infertility, we were the happiest couple with no issues or problems whatsoever. Who would have known that we could be torn apart from within.
—Guest damaged4ever

Fun but only for me

My wife and I had unprotected sex for YEARS and nothing happened, suddenly she got pregnant and we knew cause I fainted that day (weird!). We had a beautiful baby boy!! Keep at it we shall say, persistence is key, and a lot of fun might I add.
—Guest ELP 915

Turns to workreally fast

My husband and I tried for about 2 years to conceive our first baby. It was exiting and fun at first, but after awhile it felt like I was broken, and sex became a chore. I was emotional all the time. My husband was very patient and loving during this time, but when a woman wants a child so badly, not much can make her feel better when it takes so long. Its hard, it hurts, and sadly the hurt only stops with a positive pregnancy test!
—Guest Ashley

Feel like a failure

Every time we have sex, I feel like we failed. It's as if I am failing "sex school". Sex is for making babies, and we can't seem to do it! It's frustrating and depressing...
—Guest Anna1234

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