When you're trying to get pregnant, especially in the beginning, you may have questions on the very basic of baby making: having sex for conception. Is there a difference between sex for fun and conception sex? Does position matter? What about lying down afterwards?
Here are common questions and answers on baby making sex.
Timing is important when you're trying to conceive. Many of us got the impression in school that sex any time can get you pregnant, but in practice, you are more likely to get pregnant from conception sex that occurs on just three days out of the month. Learn when the best time for conception sex is in these articles.
Another common question is how often you should have sex. Some couples go all out and have sex every day, all month, and if you're into that, it's usually ok. But most people get tired of this schedule, especially if it takes longer than a few months to conceive. Plus, sex every single day can be a problem if your sperm count is low. Learn how often you should be having baby making sex here.
Position doesn't matter that much for conception sex. As long as ejaculation happens as close as possible to the cervix, it's good enough for baby making. However, there is some debate on whether or not the missionary position (man on top) may be best. Get more details here.
Some couples wonder if lying down after sex may help, thinking that if you remain horizontal for awhile, the sperm will have a better chance of getting to their destination. No one is certain whether this helps, but there has been some research on IUI treatment that indicates it might be helpful. Find more information on lying down after sex here.
Female orgasm is not required for baby making, and plenty of women conceive without it. But could female orgasm help? The research isn't clear, but some studies indicate it just may give sperm a boost. Learn more about the role of female orgasm and conception sex here.
Personal lubricants with spermicide are an obvious no-no when it comes to conception sex. But what about the regular lubricants? This is an especially important issue, since couples dealing with infertility may experience stress during sex, which means less arousal fluids. (Plus, hormonal imbalance can lead to less cervical mucus.)
Unfortunately, lubricants like Astroglide are not sperm-friendly. Read more about the effect lubricants have on sperm, and what you can use instead.
As part of fertility treatment, you may be told when to have sex. Your doctor may tell you to use an ovulation predictor kit, or she may tell you which days using ultrasound and bloodwork to predict ovulation. This can be very stressful for a couple. Learn what you can do to cope when you need to have doctor prescribed sex.
Trying to conceive can change your sex life, often for the worse if you’re trying for several months (or years). You may feel alone and frustrated, but you should know that having trouble with sex when trying to conceive is common.
There are things you can do, though. Learn more about the effect TTC has on sex, and how you can improve your sex life in the midst of infertility.
More on how to get pregnant:
- Take a Fertility Quiz
- 7 Things Every Woman Needs to Know About Fertility (Though it's good for men to know these things, too!)
- 7 Things Every Man Needs to Know About Fertility (Though it's good for women to know these things, too!)
- Your Chances of Conceiving After 35
- Symptoms and Risk Factors of Infertility
- How to Get Pregnant: For Beginners
- We Can't Get Pregnant. Now What?
- How to Cope When Trying to Conceive Overwhelms You
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