Happy New Year! I love New Years, but not for the partying. (True confession: I don't think I've ever attended a real New Year's Party. It's not my thing.) I love New Years because it's an excuse to consider how I can make changes to improve my life. I also make new or renewed resolutions every so many months, using my birthday, the changes of season, and the Jewish New Year as resolution check-ins.
If you're a resolution making gal or guy, here are five resolution ideas to consider:
1) If you haven't done so already, resolve to talk to your doctor about getting pregnant. You can talk to your doctor about your family building plans even if you haven't run up against infertility symptoms. If you have infertility symptoms, or you've been trying to conceive for more than a year without success, then you really must make a commitment to get help.
2) Resolve to reach out to friends or family for support. Whether about your fertility challenges, or just regular life, try leaning on a friend instead of pushing your problems into the back of your closet. I'm not saying you should start "over sharing", but you usually you know when you could be asking for more support and you're not. So go ahead and ask.
3) Resolve to eat more fruits and veggies. I know, I know. This is so unoriginal, but hear me out. Positive resolutions may be easier to keep than "negative" ones (like resolving to eat less junk.) Instead, try to eat more fruits and green things that you enjoy. Fruits and veggies may also be good for your fertility, so there's a win-win there!
4) Resolve to be kinder to yourself. That's right, no more beating yourself up for waiting "too long" to start your family. No more chiding yourself for feeling jealous of your sister's fourth pregnancy in under five years.
5) Resolve to start one new stress reducing hobby. It can be anything. Go for a daily walk (even better if you can do it with a friend or neighbor). Try out a new yoga class. Sign up for a pottery course. Join a book club. Don't poo-poo this as too small of a change to make a difference.
If you're thinking, "Most of these resolutions aren't that fertility specific..." then I've got one more resolution for you to consider: resolve to remember the parts of your life that aren't about getting pregnant. I know it's hard, and I know it feels like that is all that matters at times. But your life is so much more than your trying to conceive journey. Honest.
What are you resolving to do differently in 2013?
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