Part of dealing with infertility is dealing with the questions that people invariably ask – like, “When are you going to have kids?” (Or when are you going to have more kids?)

I live in a community where having five kids is an “average to small sized” family. When my younger son got to the age when people started to assume we should have another one (and we were trying, but you know how that goes), people would ask me things like, “So, are these all your kids? Leave the baby at home?”

My favorite uncomfortable situation was when I was visiting a family that my husband and I were close to. They had not seen us in a long time. I walked in with my two boys, and the woman asked, completely innocently, “So, are these all your boys?”

“Yes,” I said.

“The girls are at home?”

“Nope, don’t have any girls.”

“Ah. The younger boys are at home?”

“Nope.”

“Older boys at home?”

“Nope. These two are it.”

Oh, that conversation felt like it lasted forever. It helps that I know she meant no harm by her questions, but inside, I was hurting.

How do you deal with sticky questions? Have any stories to share? Please share with us any stories or tips in our infertility forums, or here in the comments.

Also, be sure to check out my article, with advice on how to answer people when they ask, “When are you going to have kids?”