Readers Respond: What Would Your Perfect Infertility Survivor Day Look Like?

Responses: 10

Mother’s Day is one of the hardest times for coping with infertility. With Hallmark commercials of mothers and children hugging and kissing, and cashiers wishing any woman of childbearing age a “Happy Mother’s Day” – we’re in desperate need of our own day of celebration and self-care.

In fact, we have a holiday of our own - National Infertility Survival Day! Officially the day is celebrated the weekend before Mother’s Day, but feel free to declare your own personal survival day anytime you need a boost.

What would your perfect infertility survival day look like? Share your dream!

Adult-Only Activities

I like to do all the things that would be difficult to do with kids when I'm trying to escape infertility. I spent two days away at a girlfriend's house, went to a conference, had great dinner with her and had some wine. The next day I went to a craft show with another friend - very rocky, and not kid or stroller friendly! If I could have topped that off with a fun night out with my hubby, it would have been a perfect three days of escaping from infertility!

—Guest Anne W.

My Perfect Day

It would consist of a massage and chocolates and no DSD (sorry hun). Just time with DH to do whatever we please. Oh and money to go shopping with would be good too!!

—Guest Carrie

Day On The Town

My 'dream' day would consist of activities that I wouldn't be able to do with a baby: parasailing, massages and fine dining in the day, and stand-up comedy at night (after paying my respects to my mom and MIL). Realistically, though, I'd be very happy with lunch out, and adult comedy (does Judd Apatow have anything out?), and a nice walk together at night.

—Guest Elizabeth

Lunch and a Movie

Seeing I really wouldn't want to spend my day watching kids celebrate their own mother, (no offense intended) I'd love for my husband and I to go see an adult only movie followed by lunch at an expensive restaurant where there would be no little kids running around.

—Guest Kyra

Shopping

I'd shop 'til I dropped--well, not literally, but shopping does wonders for de-stressing. It would be even better if I had enough money to do more than window shopping!

—Guest Jean

Picnic at the Park

After giving my own mother her dues I would choose to spend the day outside, in the sunshine with my husband. After a day in the sun we'd go out to dinner and a movie. Preferably a movie that would take my mind off of anything related to fertility problems

—khayesrn

Peaceful Day

My dream day would be spending the day with my DH. No worries, no stress. Just the two of us making time for one another. Maybe having a picnic lunch, but definitely listening to our favorite music and taking a drive through our favorite forest valley.

—Guest Connie G.

I'm Thinking Couples' Spa Day

Pampering treatments like couples' massage, a nice quiet lunch together with my husband, focus on being still and quiet and enjoying that sort of subtle, unspoken intimacy couples need to re-connect. The serene public-yet-private-at-the-same-time spa atmosphere removes a lot of the pressure that infertile couples face.

—Guest Natalie

A day at the beach

My perfect day would be a day at the beach, lots of sun bathing, swimming in the ocean. And of course, some fine wine (since I'm not pregnant and don't need to worry about that!). It would also, if perfect, would not include ANY infertility stuff... not talking about it, no dr apts, no shots... that would just ruin the day, bah!

—Guest Becca

Breakfast in bed! Chocolate - lots!

My PERFECT survival day would start with breakfast in bed, fresh bread and cheese, some herbal tea, too. It would involve lots of chocolate treats, and my hubby would give me something nice, maybe a necklace, maybe a bracelet. Something small, but special. We'd certainly go out for dinner -- a fancy no-kids-allowed sort of place, of course! And we'd end the night giving each other massages, and with fun (no TTC thoughts!) romance and love.

—Guest Anne