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43 Year Old Mother, Success After Multiple Miscarriages

Share Your Story: Reader Stories of Egg Donation IVF

By Sue

Updated January 23, 2011

How Much Did You Pay for the Donor Cycle? (Optional)

$25,000

Briefly Explain Why You Decided to Use an Egg Donor

I was 44 years old and had been trying for 3 years. We have a daughter who is now six, and I wanted another child. We had gotten pregnant 3 times on our own and once with IVF. All miscarried. My physician told us that if money was no object, we should keep on going with my eggs. I had great FSH numbers, and they were retrieving up to 12 eggs per cycle (we did 2 cycles) at the age of 43. But money was an object and I could not keep on going through the disappointment. So we decided to go the donor route.

Explain in Detail Your Experience with Egg Donor IVF

My son is now 6 months, and we are so overjoyed with him. I would not change anything in the world. He looks exactly like his sister -- you would never know they had different genetic mothers. To be honest, I did worry during my pregnancy that I would feel different towards my son who is a donor versus my daughter who is not. I actually was very upset the night before my c-section, worried sick how I was going to react to him. Now, I can't believe I felt that way. I love him to pieces. No different than my daughter.

Also, the way I look at it -- he is 100% mine -- he was made from me because he grew in me -- I just needed a little help.

We used an anonymous egg donor, which I would recommend. We picked the donor based on appearance and personality.

Advice

  • If you really want a child, and this is an option. Go for it!
  • Words of wisdom -- be discreet about it. Don't tell everyone -- it's no one's business, but your own.
  • I do worry how I'm going to talk about it with him. They tell you to start the conversation early -- when they are young. While I agree with that, I still worry about what he'll think about it when he is older.

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