How Long Have You Been Trying? (Optional)
6 years
Do You Already Have Any Children? (Optional)
I have two wonderful children a boy 11 who I conceived when I was 18 and a daughter 7. My doctors now say they do not know how I conceived them naturally.
Where Are You In Your Trying to Conceive Journey:
After being diagnosed with hypothyroid in my teens, I thought that was the source of all my health issues. However I had two healthy children so my husband and I never considered fertility treatments. Two years ago, I was diagnosed with PCOS and put on birth control pill in addition to metformin to control my symptoms. At that time, after four years of trying, we decided to just be happy with what we were blessed with and not try any longer.
As time went by, our desire for another baby has not diminished, so we have set an apt to speak with my doctor on Tuesday about starting Clomid.
Describe in More Detail Your Infertility Story:
I am feeling a tremendous amount of guilt and shame going into this doctor appointment. I feel like I should be happy with the wonderful, healthy kids that I have. I am nervous about starting over with an infant now that out kids are so big. I feel scared to death to let myself truly truly want to try again, because if it doesn't work, I don't want to feel that pain again.
Lessons Learned
- Lessons? We will see. I am still waiting on the outcome for that.
- One thing I keep telling myself is that women who do not suffer from infertility don't have to ask permission to get pregnant, they don't have to pass the doctor's tests, and they don't have to justify wanting another child when they already have children.
- If we could have another child naturally, I wouldn't be asking myself these questions, and I shouldn't have to.
Rachel Gurevich, Fertility Guide, says:
The feelings Heather feels, including guilt for not feeling "happy" with the children she already has, is very common in women with secondary infertility. Her advice to herself is good advice to everyone -- she's right that those who don't have trouble conceiving, don't have to justify themselves. She doesn't have to justify her feelings either.
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