Happy Purim - or Purim Sameach! - to all those celebrating today. If you don't know, Purim is a Jewish holiday centered around the story from the Book of Esther. (You can read more about it here at About Judaism, or watch a fun video on YouTube that tells the story here.)
In the entire Book of Esther, God is never mentioned. Unlike other Bible stories, where if a miracle happens, God is usually mentioned and given credit right away, in Esther you could say all the events are man made only. Or you could say God was working in the background.
This reminds me of a common debate among the fertility challenged, which is whether or not pregnancy after treatment is a "miracle." Is something a miracle if you have to work for it? Is something a miracle only if it comes easily, with fireworks and heavenly booming voices? And does it even matter if it's a miracle? What is a miracle, anyway?
Personally, I waver back and forth on this question. Some days, I really want to believe in miracles, and I do, and I see them everywhere. On my pro-miracle days, everything looks and feels brighter. Happier. Other days, miracles seem as real to me as unicorns. But regardless of whether or not I see my children as "miracles" or not, I always see them as beautiful, precious blessings in my life. After all, isn't life itself a grand miracle?
Whether you celebrate Purim or not, I'd love to hear your thoughts on miracles and infertility in the comments below. Just be respectful, as I know these kinds of discussions can get heated quickly!
More on coping on the holidays:
- Childless on Passover: Coping with Infertility as a Jew
- 10 Ways to Cope When Trying to Conceive Overwhelms You
- Should You Tell Friends and Family About Your Infertility?
- "What Will You Have Kids?"
- Coping at Family Holiday Dinners
- 10 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself if You're Fertility Challenged
- Myth: You Cannot Pursue Treatment and Consider Yourself a Believer/Religious