They mean well. At least, we hope they do. You confide in a friend or relative that you're struggling to get pregnant or dealing with infertility. You may have been thinking about this for a long time, wondering if you should divulge your secret or not. Finally, you do it. Breath of relief. And then, they say things like...
"Well, at least it's not cancer."
"Think of all the good in your life, though."
"You can always adopt."
"You don't know how lucky you are! Kids will ruin your life. Enjoy the quiet while you can."
Umm, thanks?
If your friends and family need a little help, share this article:
Best case, they'll take the hint and follow the advice. Worst case, they get offended... and now you're even for all the things they said that offended you. It's a win-win!
What insensitive things have people said to you about infertility? What are the best things they've said? Please share your experience here or in the comments below. I'd love to hear from you!
More on coping with infertility:
- "When Are You Going to Have Kids?"
- Should You Tell Your Friends and Family About Your Infertility?
- How to Deal with Baby Shower Invitations
- 10 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself if You Are Fertility Challenged
- 10 Things to Stop Doing if You Want to Support a Fertility Challenged Friend or Family Member
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