Jennifer Lopez will be staring in an upcoming movie, "The Back-Up Plan", which tells the story of a woman who uses fertility treatment to get pregnant.
However, Lopez made clear in a recent interview with Elle magazine that she herself would never use IVF. According to FoxNews.com, she's quoted in the interview saying, "I ... believe in God and I have a lot of faith in that, so I just felt like you don't mess with things like that. And I guess deep down I really felt like either this is not going to happen for me or it is. You know what I mean? And if it is, it will. And if it's not, it's not going to."
There are a lot of people upset about her statement. So much so that the American Fertility Association has felt the need to come out with a statement supporting J.Lo's "right to not use IVF", just as they support those that do want to use IVF.
Now, of course, J.Lo can do (and think and say) whatever she wants. But I don't think people are upset that she wouldn't consider IVF, but upset with how she said what she said.
I think that when those of us in the infertility community read her statement, we took it personally. By her saying her faith in God is the reason she wouldn't consider IVF, it felt as if she were saying that those that do use IVF don't have faith, or don't believe in God.
Plenty of those in the infertility community are big believers, and come from all walks of life and religions. And yes, some of us have religious objections to some fertility treatments, including IVF. It can be a huge struggle.
Those people with religious objections to IVF, however, may have other options, which they may or may not know about.
Some are worried about extra embryos, or fertilization outside of the body. For these women, a procedure like GIFT may be better. Or they may ask that the doctor create only one or two embryos, even if this may lower their chances of success.
Some couples may go through special screening and testing before treatment so that any leftover embryos can be donated to another couple. Or they may keep trying for babies as long as they have leftover embryos to use.
And some will decide that IVF or any fertility treatment is just not for them, for any number of reasons. And that's fine.
But that doesn't mean that those of us that choose to use IVF don't believe in God, or have just as much faith as someone who doesn't use IVF. Some of us believe that God would want us to use IVF to have child, just like God may want us to take medication to cure any illness or disease.
I also think it's much easier for a person to say they wouldn't use IVF or fertility treatments when they conceived without help. Since J.Lo says her twins were conceived "naturally", I can't expect her to understand where those of us who can't get pregnant "naturally" are coming from.
But then again, J.Lo is only a celebrity - not a religious leader or politician. I don't know if she intended to judge anyone else. She was just talking about her personal feelings - probably without thinking about the possible wide impact her words might have on those dealing with infertility.
What are your thoughts? Please do share, I'd love to hear from you!